“Let the past go. Forgive yourself and allow peace to enter in. Life is a process of learning and we are all works in progress.”
― Eileen Anglin
We all screw up. Of course you know that since we are usually the first ones to point out our screw ups. However as humans we make mistakes large and small. Every single day of our lives we make mistakes one way or another. The problem isn’t whether we made a mistake but how we reach to those mistakes and how we treat ourselves.
I’m sure as a young child most of you were scolded, yelled at or in the extreme cases physically punished for making mistakes. Over the years we used the same techniques we were taught at a young age on ourselves when we make mistakes.
In the past I have punished myself emotionally, mentally and physically to pay for some mistakes I have made. (I will not give you ideas as to how I punished myself, but sometimes it was pretty bad). Going back to thinking of myself as a 7 year old, I stopped treating myself so brutally and started practicing patience and understanding with myself. When I accepted the fact that I was human therefore I would never be perfect, I allowed myself to to make mistakes and learn from them.
Self forgiveness means accepting the fact that you made a mistake and taking responsibility for it. Reflecting on why the mistake was made and whether it could have been prevented. Making a mental note and a conscious effort to prevent the same mistake in the future and congratulating yourself for acknowledging the mistake and not freaking out on yourself. It also means not throwing this mistake back at your own face later when facing a harsh time of negative self-reflection.
Once you learn to forgive yourself you will be able to move on to other things in your life with a lighter load from your shoulders. Also, if you tend to be the type of person to hold grudges against others, it may also help you forgive, forget and move on.
Tell me, do you already practice self-forgiveness? If not, how will you start today? Sharing, even in the comments below can help you start brainstorming ways to take better care of yourself.
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